Well, we didn’t actually take Dad to Oklahoma, however we did take his cremains to be buried beside my mother’s earthly physique below their joint gravestone in what’s principally the household cemetery in Enid.
It was a very good journey with many vital occasions and experiences. I wrote about Dad’s life a couple of weeks in the past right here in The Citizen if you wish to look again at that.https://thecitizen.com/2021/08/29/dad-a-life-well-lived/
The primary leg of the journey for my spouse and me was to drive from Fayetteville to Michigan to our daughter and son-in-law and our 4 grandkids there. My cousin later was trustworthy sufficient to say we had a poor sense of route if that’s how we deliberate to get to Oklahoma. He can be proper, in fact, besides that we did that to fly with daughter and the 4, which was solely doable if we had been alongside to herd the cats and spherical up the strays. Son-in-law needed to keep put with calls for of being the highschool principal.
I truly grew up in Texas, and among the many hundreds of “sayings” prevalent there’s this, “You may’t hardly get there from right here.” That’s virtually true of Enid, Oklahoma. Our flight plan was restricted to American Airways due to different airways’ poor schedule into Oklahoma Metropolis, and since there have been no direct flights from Detroit, we needed to cease over in Dallas after which on into OKC. This time it was “go south to go north.” Go determine. And a stopover in Dallas with a airplane change is not any cake-walk both, however we made it.
The final leg was the simplest, simply lease a automobile in OKC and drive the final 85 miles on as much as Enid. With the seven of us and baggage and automobile seats, and so forth., I had labored laborious to specify a seven passenger mini-van to accommodate. In true rental automobile firm style, nonetheless, their phrases had been merely, “Oh, we’re sorry, however we don’t have a mini-van on the lot proper now.” Effectively, thanks very a lot. Lastly, they supplied a seven passenger car, however with virtually no baggage area, which we packed and stacked and squeezed into. We then connected with our different daughter and her husband and their new child woman.
The night drive throughout the flat plains was fairly nice after a compulsory cease at beloved Chick-fil-A, and the check-in on the Hampton Inn was with out incident, so all was effectively as we mentioned prayers and seemed ahead to the subsequent day.
I gained’t go into as many particulars for the primary full day in Enid, which was one full day earlier than the graveside service for Dad out on the cemetery, but it surely was an incredible day for connection to our household roots. We went out to the farm that my grandpa owned and farmed and later rented out to a different farmer as he and his household moved into city. I went there many instances as a boy, and we took our youngsters there many instances as we visited my mother and pop after they lived in Enid additionally.
The Okies are critical after they sing, “We all know we belong to the land and the land we belong to is grand.” There’s a actual sense of connection to the sacred creation of the fertile earth that provides and offers and offers. On our household farm, the wheat crops and a few mineral rights have produced and blessed us time and again and over by way of greater than 100 years. Thanks, Lord.
That day ended with a music live performance and sing-along led by my brother. The miracle and blessing about this was that the grandkids sat quiet and nonetheless and sang alongside for no less than an hour and a half. By the top of the live performance, my son, many extra of the household, and a few trustworthy cousins had joined us to pay our respects to Dad and revel in some household reunion time as effectively.
The day of the graveside service began early for all as everybody was on the brink of be on the mid-morning service. Top-of-the-line components of a household reunion time in a resort is the breakfast time collectively on the free buffet. The espresso and scrambled eggs and accompanying breakfast quickies make for nice visiting and connecting. That was all definitely true about our three days collectively.
On the appointed mid-morning hour the entire household, some cousins, two native pastors who knew Dad, and a few trustworthy mates and church members from Dad’s pastoring days gathered on the graveside. His cremains sat in a properly lacquered picket field atop a small desk on the gravestone the place we noticed my mother’s identify and the dates of her life, which reminded us that most cancers took her from us far too quickly.
I used to be in control of the service and was privileged to conduct it with the expensive ones gathered round. Two necessary elements guided us by way of the service. One was our Lutheran heritage, which places the main target of a funeral on the fantastic resurrection of our Savior Jesus Christ; and the second was that I might hear in my coronary heart what my dad would have mentioned, so I principally preached what he would have preached had he nonetheless had a bodily voice. I do know we had been all each comforted and led to celebration and thanksgiving for Dad and his lengthy and well-lived life.
I’ve mentioned all this to say what’s actually necessary: Household heritage is so necessary for our lives collectively as human beings. To start with, it is very important dwell our lives with religion in God and religion in Jesus as our Savior. It will be important for us to dwell our lives in a means that shows our religion with indicators of serving others and performing with honesty and integrity. It’s so necessary to dwell our lives in order that we’re revered by our household and those that know us. All of that is necessary in order that our household and those that observe after can look to our lives pretty much as good examples.
All of this additionally factors to the decision from God for us to honor and respect our mom and father and all these whose lives have influenced us towards a very good life well-lived.
It was very important for my sister and her household, for my brother and his household, for me and my household, and for the rising generations to honor and respect the life my dad lived, and in so doing additionally once more give that very same honor and respect to my beloved mom as we remembered her on this particular means as effectively.
Please take from this studying a renewal of your dedication to God and Christ, a renewal of your dedication to do no matter it takes to honor these whose lives name for honor and respect, and to a renewal of your dedication to dwell a life that may sooner or later be honored and revered. All of us say merely, “I shall and I ask God to assist and information me.” Amen!
[Kollmeyer, a Fayette County resident for 35 years, is Pastor Emeritus at Prince of Peace Lutheran Church in Fayetteville. Follow Pastor Scott Ness and this great church at www.princeofpeacefayette.org. Kollmeyer is also Interim Pastor at Word of God Lutheran Church in Sharpsburg. Find his weekly video recorded sermons at www.woglutheran.org.]